Jul 21, 2011

''Feel Free To Adore Me'' and Other Types Of Social Media USERS I Don't Like Using ME



A relative talked to me for an hour yesterday about his work. When I tried to show him what I was doing lately, he interrupted me abruptly: ''I don't have time for that now!''


Old news? People are selfish and (only) interested in themselves and their agenda. Not that I let myself obsess over this fact, but it jumps at me from every corner. This includes social media or social networks.


I can take it, but I wish it was much less obvious. Why? Because it reduces my appetite for being open, friendly, respectful and decent.


They don't say for nothing ''As fake as Facebook friendships''. Facebook is not to blame for this. I see fake in other social networks I am on - Twitter, LinkedIn, etc.


If people are selfish (egoistic) or even users in real life, why would they be different online?


There is only a bigger playing field now, where we can (try to) appear more sociable, upbeat, cool, fun, successful or genuine than we are.


''Me, me, me, I am'' (as dear reader named it) attitude is everywhere online, because it is everywhere - offline.


That's all. We just follow more people now and therefore have a bigger collection of attitudes on display.


Here are few types of the SM USERS, I identified during the past 10 months:


Facebook


Type F1: SNEAKY FACEBOOK PAGE OWNERS

People add you as a friend on Facebook and soon after they suggest you like their page. There are two using sub-types here:


Type F1.1: LIKE ME AND I MIGHT NOT DELETE YOU

a) you don't like the page as you are not interested in construction company on another continent, so they delete you as a friend. My conclusion not necessary here.



Type F1.2: LIKE ME NOW AND I WILL NOT LIKE YOU LATER

b) you like their page and/or recommend them wherever they asked you to, as they seem nice guys who comment and like your profile posts. When you set up your page and ask them to return the favor (i.e. ''like'' your page) they ignore you.




Twitter



Type T1: ''FEEL FREE TO ADORE ME'' GRATEFUL TWITTER-ERS


You follow them on Twitter, they don't follow you back (which is OK), but send you a direct message:


a) To thank you for the follow, and remind you to visit their blog, page, Facebook page, Linked In profile...


b) To say they are ''happy WE will be sharing knowledge.'' Wait, the knowledge is going from her to me only, when she does not follow me. What kind of sharing is that?


Preferred action: don't follow back and say nothing.



Type T2 : NOWAY I AM MENTIONING YOU


You follow each other. He/she asks the random question, you reply, others reply (showing him/her in timelines of my and other people's followers). That's a lot of mentioning, which is not bad for the asker, but noway you get feedback, as that would mean mentioning you.

The others might want to check you out?!



Type T3: I FOLLOW BACK, ONLY I DON'T

These are seemingly sweet people who claim they are friendly and ''follow back.'' That sounds kind. Somehow, you recognize them later in your list of ''non followers.''

You should probably not be looking for people who ''follow back'', but isn't it funny to claim you do if you really don't?



Type T4: SIMPLY ''FOLLOW FOR UNFOLLOW''

Not very common in my 9 months on Twitter, but I remember few. They follow you, and as soon as you follow back - they will unfollow. Trying to boost their followers to non-followers ratio, or what?

Sure, I follow people who do not follow back, but make sure to delete this kind.



LinkedIn



Type LI 1: (BADLY) HIDDEN AGENDA LINKED-IN ENTHUSIAST

Person is inviting you in his/her network, full of compliments for your profile, background, experience, comment, article, or other. Their tone is extremely friendly, there are questions about you.

If you (have decency to) reply and ask how they are, (even hinting that you can not hire them, or help relocate) - you will not get as much as ''thanks'', or a line about them in return.

Suddenly they do not have time to write.

''Can you hire me, help me get hired, move to....wherever'' would be cool, and would make me sorry that I couldn't.


Nothing wrong about asking for help, only about pretending you are dying to know about me/my business.


Am sure you have seen similar things, and making your own rules. I know many of you already have them, as I discovered on your blogs.


Although thousands claim to be ''social media experts'', we are still trying, learning and developing our taste for it. Different tastes, preferences, values and rules.


We find advantages, info, tricks and people we like, and the ones we don't. No big deals, just more learning.


Regards to all brilliant people I got in contact with thanks to Social networks! Thanks to all who ever subscribed to my blog, followed me or liked my new FB page.


Thanks also to those who did not follow, friend, subscribe, like, connect, hire me, but also did not try to make a (social media) fool of me.


What are the types/behaviors that irritate you on Social Networks, what are your rules?



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